The Story Of Al-Anon
A family of support groups for people that have been affected by the problem of alcoholism within their family is identified as Al-Anon. These gatherings provided much-needed support and healing.
Al-Anon was founded in 1951 as an organization for providing support to friends and relatives of drunkards. 16 years after Bill W founded Alcoholics Anonymous (AA), Al-Anon was founded by Lois W. his wife and Anne B. Lois W sort to help others suffering at the hands of alcoholics like herself. Al-Anon is an organization which supports itself through donations provided by members. Meetings are available to assist family members and friends of alcoholics adjust and better serve their loved ones, even if their loved ones have not recovered.
These groups help their members know there are others like them.
Alcoholism Affecting The Whole Family
Since it has a deleterious influence on both the drinker and those around them, Al-anon treats the disease of alcoholism as a family illness. It is integral for the alcoholic's recovery to have a family and friend support system around them.
Many family members are known to blame themselves for the drinking problem of their loved one, and in many cases do not understand why the recovery of their loved one is a priority. The Al-Anon group meetings help bring these issues to light and teach members how to deal with alcoholism as it affects the whole family.
Alateen- Al-Anon For Teenagers
Besides, Al-Anon has a group named Alateen organized specially for young people whose family member suffers from alcoholism.
The meetings held by Alateen help youngsters to meet with individuals within their age group in order to make their experiences more beneficial and interrelated.
Reasons To Partake In An Al-Anon Group
The people in the group are struggling like you or are going through what you are experiencing as a victim of alcoholism. Despite every individual being different Al-Anon commonly had interrelated experiences within their struggles. The main advantage of Al-Anon is searching people who have had similar experiences to talk to. These meetings are widespread all over the country. Give us a call on 0800 246 1509 to assist you find one close by you.
The Results Of These Meetings
For anyone who is affected by someone else's drinking, Al- Anon meetings are for those. Contact an Al-Anon group near you if you are concerned about someone who is drinking more than they should or who is making your life stressful because of their drinking.
A number of people are not certain about what they can expect and are therefore, hesitant to attend their first meeting. The following are some of the key things to know when you are coming for the meetings:
- Al-Anon is anonymous meaning you do not identify yourself in the meeting
- Everybody present in each meeting has faced the problem of alcoholism, either personally or has a family member suffering from it
- While members are encouraged to speak up and discuss their problem, they are under no obligation to do so
- These Meetings Are Of Different Types
- Some could be more productive for you than the others.
- This group is not affiliated to any religion
- These meetings are focused on the 12 Step program by Al-Anon
The Al-Anon meetings work on the "take what you like and leave the rest" philosophy Thus, meetings put an increased focus on talking about experiences and hardships rather than telling attendees what to do.
Al-Anon And The Twelve Steps
Every meeting begins with the reading of Al-Anon's twelve-step program. Adapted, from the 12 Step program of Alcoholics Anonymous, these steps are nearly straight sword. Members of Al-Anon can take help from a sponsor who can assist them to work through the steps and is available for any support needed during hardships of any kind just as the case is with Alcoholics Anonymous. These steps are:
- We did admit we were powerless over alcoholism, that our lives became unmanageable indeed.
- This is the point where alcoholism recognised as a conditioner that has affected them all.
- Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
- Pretty often members try to change or control their significant others and drive themselves to the verge.
- When they understand they cannot do anything to change their loved one, people are now able to accept they can relax and let go for their peace of mind.
- Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.
- A key step to the program and acceptance of learning to let go.
- Carry out a thorough and undaunted moral inventory of ourselves.
- A huge part of the steps are self-discovery, and this is the beginning of the procedure.
- Attendees have the option of creating a list of how they could have wronged themselves or their loved ones with examples like threats issued, Etc.
- Admitted to god, to ourselves and to other human being the precise nature of our wrongs.
- Writing each problem enables them to examine them one by one.
- Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
- This is an important step because it comes after accepting in full that the recovery process is supported by a greater power.
- Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.
- This part of the twelve step process helps people realize how controlling or judgmental they have been towards an alcoholic and how counterproductive it is.
- Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.
- Very often, righting a wrong starts with yourself.
- Lots of people tend to blame themselves for addiction of their significant others.
- These people had better be willing to forgive and make amends to themselves.
- Made amends to such people directly where feasible, except for the cases when doing so is likely to hurt them or others.
- Working on the steps of recovery and help after forgiving yourself is the next step.
- Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.
- To complete 12 Steps takes time.
- Though a member made a list of things they did wrong, sometimes you may find yourself repeating some things.
- Step 10 makes this clear that the process takes long.
- Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out.
- This step is a personal, spiritual one; it comprises acceptance and comfort in view of the great stress of recovery.
- Having experienced a spiritual awakening thanks to these steps, we tried to spread the word to other people, and to always practice these principles.
- This stage appreciates the fact that the process is long and doesnt end after a while.
- Members are then motivated to assist other members with what they have learned.
Recognising The Higher Power
Members recognise there is a spiritual power that helps them to recover. The "higher power" or God is according to each person's perception of whom they consider Him to be. All religions are well represented and no one is forced to change to another religion.